RE-BLOG: My Second Wind in Blogging

As the song goes, "I get by with a little help from my friends."  This was the last line I wrote in 2010 on my first blog post.

It was a good while since September 2013 when PED Xing had its last post that year (“Jason & Crystalina Evert).  I have been wanting to write but deadlines, much work, family matters, health concerns...where is the time to blog?

Today, I decided to re-blog.  More than a return to writing, I consider this as second wind born by an encouragement from Annie, a business coach by profession and a mother and teacher for life.

There are many kinds of professional coaches (team, performance, skills, career, business, life, executive, or even a distance coach).  Yet coaches I realized would really make great impact on their clients not on what they say but on what they are.  If coaches will just tread on the true north of life's principles aside from skills and techniques they impart, they will really help many people.

I am blessed to have known many magnificent people.  There is so much to learn and know about them. There are also great projects now moving and it is just compelling to speak and write about these.  People, enterprises, development issues continue to cross my path...Why should I not re-blog and share these stories?

Thank you Annie for the spark of your encouragement and the inspiration of your friendship and kindness.  Wouldn’t this “RE-BLOG” post be a measurable outcome of your coaching? Indeed, it is just one...and there will be more.

       Rucksack Coach Annie Lulu with her daughter Malia (May 2015 in  Quezon City, Philippines)

Jason and Crystalina Evert

Jason and Crystalina Evert were the speakers in the Educhild (Education in the upbringing of Children) conference entitled “Worth Waiting For” last September 7, 2013, 6:00 p.m. at the University of Makati.  They shared with the audience the "10 Rules for a Chaste Life" including their own experiences of love and work that inspires their listeners to embrace chastity with freedom. Young people including educators and parents received warmly the message of the Everts on "Chastity and Pure Love". Thanks to University of Asia & the Pacific  student organizations YUP! (Youth United for the Philippines!) and CATALYST for inviting Jason and Chrystalina here in the Philippines from September 4 to 8.

What made the Evert-talks effective and attractive?  I think it is their sincerity and the force of their message:  chaste love.  It may seem corny or unrealistic but a chaste love is still the best answer to the deep longing of wanting to be loved exclusively, unconditionally, fruitfully, and forever. A chaste love aims to make both subject and object of love happy and faithfully bound to the duties of the relationship. The search for such pure love can be difficult and tricky as problems of pornography, personal weaknesses, and bad company chill our drive to go for ideals.   What is more, to keep love pure these days is also a challenging and tough fight. But Crystalina explained that when we find it hard to love genuinely yet work to overcome the obstacles, we can be assured of a greater freedom from loving.

The result of is amazing:  her self-conquest became the recovery from a downfall and the liberation from her past life that imprisoned her.  She became open to love and be loved.  

Jason clarified that love cannot be equated to giving in to our sexual impulses or to inordinate sexual orientation or attraction outside the marriage covenant.  That would be enslavement and there is no freedom to really love.  Loving chastely can be learned and this can be passed to others.  Aside from one’s resolve to be chaste, the true victory according to Jason comes from the power of prayers and in a special manner, the Adoration of the Eucharist.

This selfless love of the spouses through their “gift of self” creates a united and stable marital union—very much needed by the children to feel secure and loved.  These same children will pass on that security and love to their children, and the legacy of love lives on.  It is a great opportunity for young people to be part of the Chastity Project by Jason and Crystalina.  I highly recommend that parents and teachers visit the website (http://chastityproject.com/) and facebook page.  It is a great service to all especially for the youth.

Jason and Crystalina Evert during the Educhild Conference "Worth Waiting For" last September 7, 2013, 6:00 p.m. at the University of Makati

Expecting A Baby in a Culture of Truth and Love

Expecting A Baby in a Culture of Truth and Love

The recent good news that Britain’s newest Royal Couple, Prince William and Princess Kate, are expecting their first child—the third in line to be the successor to the Royal throne—gave great joy to many in the United Kingdom and in the world.  The news brought about by the confinement of Duchess of Cambidge in a London hospital due to an acute morning sickness did not escape paparazzi reporters and the official media.  Other trivia or facts on this news were capitalized as sensational for the day, even stories reminiscent of how the late Princess Diana and husband Prince Charles years ago anticipated their first born—Prince William.

Recent knowledge that the Royal Couple--the Duke and Duchess
of Cambridge--is expecting their first baby has been  a great global news. 

The arrival of a baby in a family is normally viewed as a blessing and a cause for joy.   In the Philippines, the parents’ usual understated enthusiasm is also mixed with expected tensions as they prepare for this new  member of the family.  The crib, the little clothes, and the baby’s booties...all these are prepared one by one as much as possible before the baby comes.  The mother takes more than the usual precaution of herself while the father works harder to save more to cover the needs of his spouse and the soon-to-be-born daughter or son.  Once the bundle of joy arrives, everyone at home suddenly acquires light, color, and life.  The baby now becomes a center of attraction and the family members are entertained and awed with the little one’s growth and development.

Each life from the moment of conception
in the mother's womb is sacred,

Amid various perceptions on each child that is to be born, I sigh with relief when a child’s life is safeguarded by both the baby's mother and father.  Is it not at this point where we should really secure the future of a human being’s quality of life?  Is it not here when we protect the sacredness of the person and endeavor to thwart the various threats to the survival of the greatest value on earth?  Definitely, the world welcomes a V.I.P.’s especially if the one to be born has good social and economic standing.  If one is not a prince but only a “commoner” or “indigent” in  society—another mouth to feed they say—many frown.  The poor or weaklings, they say, should not be so many because they will frustrate the ideal of a great, intelligent, and progressive society.  And the birth of many poor ones unsettles and disconcerts even those who benefit from the families of these children.  And if it is in their power, they will even legislate laws or ordinances to control births with this in mind--an apparent quality of life.

May they be allowed to celebrate their birthdays and their first "Christmas" as well.

On the other side of the issue, a new life that begins from the moment of conception means news of good tidings.  Protection of that fetus, the baby-in-potency starts for the parents. And for a parent’s caring and loving heart—for that father or  mother, especially for the mother who bears and gives birth to a new life—that child will always be a treasure, her Prince or her Princess, no matter what.  In these days of Advent, may we also thing of the children to be born whose lives just started to be formed… May they be allowed to have birthdays and celebrate their first “Christmas” too.

The Virgin of Guadalupe is known to be the Protector of the Unborn.  Know also the beautiful story of the Virgin of Guadalupe from this link: http://www.catholic.org/about/guadalupe.php

John Paul II wrote one of the best prayer in promotion of a culture of life with Our Lady of Guadalupe as inspiration:

O Mary, bright dawn of the new world,

Mother of the living,
to you do we entrust the cause of life
Look down, O Mother, upon the vast numbers
of babies not allowed to be born,
of the poor whose lives are made difficult,
of men and women who are victims of brutal violence,
Of the elderly and the sick killed by indifference or

out of  misguided mercy.

Grant that all who believe in your Son
may proclaim the Gospel of life with honesty and love
to the people of our time.
Obtain for them the grace to accept that Gospel as a gift ever new, the joy of celebrating it with gratitude
throughout their lives and the courage to bear witness to it resolutely,

in order to build, together with all people of good will, the civilization of truth and love, to the praise and glory of God, 

the Creator and lover of life.

Blessed Pope John Paul II

Getting Sick and Getting Well

“Getting Sick and Getting Well” is my crash course on time.  Two weeks ago, a sudden painful condition required that I submit myself for surgery.  Much as I have been avoiding this, an emergency operation was seen as the only solution.  Well, that period of hospital confinement and my current convalescence at home have helped me much to understand time.  These experiences sharpened and enriched my self-knowledge and my view of  various relationships in life.  And when we view something from another perspective, our knowledge of it increases in breadth and depth.

My friend Marie lent me a good read during those time of rest and convalescence in the hospital:
"How to be sick and spiritually profit from it"

It started with the pain that robbed me of sleep.  It came more acute at night yet, I was moving about during the day, managing with the usual tasks.  But three nights without much improvement of what I felt after the usual medications made me a qualified candidate for the hospital’s emergency room (ER).  I had an inkling of what could ail me yet after further study of my condition, more things were diagnosed by the doctors which alarmed me.   And my rowdy imagination made me afraid of what will happened next.  Fortunately, with caring people beside me, I accepted the doctors’ advice and in a few hours, I was wheeled into the operating room (OR).  The next thing I know was I moved in to a room where I will stay put for five more days.

At the Noordhoff Craniofacial Foundation Philippines

I work in a craniofacial center and I am used to coordinate the treatment of patients with their doctors.  Frequently, I work with caregivers and other hospital personnel.  At the center, we endeavor to give the best possible care we can give our patients which includes social services like financial sponsorship and accommodation during long periods of treatment.    Now, my routine was completely changed to becoming a patient.  This drastic shift in my state of affairs gave an extraordinary change in perspective.  It had deepened my understanding of the differing stances of the health care giver and the patient.

Early this year, Pope Benedict XVI had said from his Angelus Message in Rome (5 February 2012):

Flowers from NCFP

It is nonetheless true that illness is a typically human condition in which we feel strongly that we are not self-sufficient but need others. In this regard we might say paradoxically that illness can be a salutary moment in which to experience the attention of others and to pay attention to others!

I learned to value in a special way all who cared for me in the hospital and at home, and the affection from relatives and friends.  It also gave me that solidarity with others who are sick especially those who have no one to care for them.  I keep them very much in my prayers now.   Aside from this new sensitivity, the windfall price of getting sick is the chance of spending more time talking with God.

Smiles of health caregivers greatly cheer the sick.  

What happened to me when I got sick may not be so different with what happens to others in similar situation.   Our moments of sickness may at times be prolonged which is definitely very far from our liking.  How I wish others will not experience what I went through.  But I know that all of us will not be spared in getting ill.  Hippocrates said that “Healing is a matter of time, but it is also a matter of opportunity.” That “evil” moment of ailment can also be the great opportunity of “love” where we can experience what is unique and beautiful.  

Good people are like kaleidoscope mirrors

When I was young, one of my favorite toy is a kaleidoscope that my mother would buy from one of the sidewalk vendors near school.  It was a simple cylinder wrapped with local gift wrapping paper with three slides of mirrors inside and lots of very small colored chips.  Looking through one end of the cylinder, I was fascinated by the beautiful random patterns created by the symmetrical and colorful reflections from the mirrors and from the light coming from the opposite end of the tube.  Those unique and colorful designs were so interesting.  They were just charming.

Good people are like kaleidoscope mirrors that transform the simple bits of colored chips to exquisite and magnificent motifs.  Loved ones and friends enable the humdrum and even life’s terrible situations co-exist with smiles, joy, and courage.  When I was clumsy in holding my kaleidoscope (I broke several when I was in grade school), I discovered that the mechanism inside was very simple.  Yet I cannot bring back the shattered mirrors and the ordinary colored bits in place.  

Nonetheless, in sickness we all need human warmth: to comfort a sick person what counts more than words is serene and sincere closeness.

~Benedict XVII 

The way children are: happy, simple, natural, loving.

Truly, we all need that "serene and sincere closeness" of the others most especially when we get sick.  The human warmth given to the sick is the kaleidoscope's mirror that reflect the magnificent images of colors and shapes.  Definitely, the light of faith in God will make it possible for us to see the beauty and greatness amid the mundane and the humble--even frightening--events that go with the human condition.

On the day I was admitted in the hospital, I was just fortunate to hear the voice of Saint Josemaría Escrivá from a recorded homily which he gave at the University of Navarre on October 8, 1967.  Little did I suspect that this will be the theme of my confinement.  Here is my choice excerpt:

I assure you, my sons and daughters, that when a Christian carries out with love the most insignificant everyday action, that action overflows with the transcendence of God.  That is why I have told you repeatedly, and hammered away once and again on the idea that the Christian vocation consists of making heroic verse out of the prose of each day.  Heaven and earth seem to merge, my sons and daughters, on the horizon.  But where they really meet is in your hearts, when you sanctify your everyday lives.

Thanks to Love, the one who suffer endures and is liberated from the  tyranny of time.   ~o0o~

"Heaven and earth seem to merge, my sons and daughters, on the horizon.  But where they really meet is in your hearts, when you sanctify your everyday lives."
From a homily of St.Josemaria "Passionately Loving the World"
(Photo taken in Nongaya Beach, San Felipe, Zambales)

Praying for our Faithful Departed

At Pinegrove Memorial Park in Sydney, Australia

     Surely we miss those whom we love and who are no longer with us on earth.  In my Catholic Faith, November is usually the time dedicated to pray for the these souls we call the Faithful Departed.  Love continues after death and the wish that our loved ones reach their destination in Happiness and Peace.  We accompany them with prayers and we best express this by offering for them Holy Mass or the Celebration of the Eucharist.  

The Holy Mass is one of the best prayers for the Faithful Departed.

      In a special way, I remember my sister, my dad, and other relatives not with us now but continues to help me in special ways...  This tradition of prayer makes the family, group, or any association more bonded.  Saying a simple prayer for them or offering a good deed would be helpful even though it is just the prayer of Eternal Rest...  Searching for some good prayers, I came across this link:Prayers for the Faithful Departed - Prayers for the Souls in Purgatory and copied here Prayers for the Faithful Departed that may be useful for you or some of your friends. Just click the cited link.  Here it goes:

At detail of cross and an angel in a tombstone in a Christian cemetery.

"Prayer for the dead is one of the greatest acts of charity we can perform. Our prayers help them during their time in Purgatory, so that they can enter more quickly into the fullness of heaven. These prayers are especially suited for offering a novena on behalf of the dead, or for praying during those seasons of the year (November, in the Western Church; Lent, in the Eastern Church) designated by the Church as times of fervent prayer for the faithful departed."

De Profundis

The De Profundis is a penitential psalm that is sung as part of vespers (evening prayer) and in commemorations of the dead. It is also a good psalm to express our sorrow as we prepare for the Sacrament of Confession.

Prayer for Mercy on the Souls in Purgatory

While we know that all who are in Purgatory will enter into Heaven, we are still bound by charity to try to lessen the suffering of the Holy Souls through our prayers and deeds. While our first responsibility is to those people we have known, it is important to remember in our prayers those souls who are most forsaken.

A Prayer for a Deceased Mother

This prayer is a good way to remember our mother. It is especially useful to pray as a novena on the anniversaries of her death; or during the month of November, which the Church sets aside for prayer for the dead; or simply anytime that her memory comes to mind.

A Prayer for a Deceased Father

This prayer is a good way to remember our father. It is especially useful to pray as a novena on the anniversaries of his death; or during the month of November, which the Church sets aside for prayer for the dead; or simply anytime that his memory comes to mind.

A Prayer for Deceased Parents

This prayer is a good way to remember our parents, who have gone before us. It is especially useful to pray as a novena on the anniversaries of their deaths; or during the month of November, which the Church sets aside for prayer for the dead; or simply anytime that their memory comes to mind.

Prayer for All the Deceased

This beautiful prayer, drawn from the Byzantine Divine Liturgy, reminds us that Christ's victory over death brings us all the possibility of eternal rest. We pray for all of those who have gone before us, that they, too, may enter into Heaven.

Prayer for the Holy Souls in Purgatory

Christ's mercy encompasses all men. He desires the salvation of everyone, and so we approach Him with confidence that He will have mercy on the Holy Souls in Purgatory, who have already proved their love for Him.

Eternal Rest

One of the most commonly recited of Catholic prayers in times past, this prayer has fallen into disuse in the last few decades. Prayer for the dead is one of the greatest acts of charity we can perform.

Eternal Memory

This prayer is used in Eastern Catholic and Eastern Orthodox churches. The "eternal memory" mentioned in the prayer is remembrance by God, which is another way of saying that the soul has entered heaven and enjoys eternal life.

Weekly Prayers for the Faithful Departed

The Church offers us different prayers that we can say each day of the week for the faithful departed. These are especially useful for offering a novena on behalf of the dead, or for praying during those seasons of the year (November, in the Western Church; Lent, in the Eastern Church) designated by the Church as times of fervent prayer for the...

Sunday Prayer for the Faithful Departed

This is a prayer for the faithful departed to be offered on Sundays.

Monday Prayer for the Faithful Departed

This prayer is said on Mondays for the souls of the faithful departed.

Tuesday Prayer for the Faithful Departed

On Tuesdays, Catholics pray this prayer for the souls of the faithful departed.

Wednesday Prayer for the Faithful Departed

Catholics pray this prayer on Wednesdays for the souls of the faithful departed.

Thursday Prayer for the Faithful Departed

We should remember the faithful departed on Thursdays by praying this prayer.

Friday Prayer for the Faithful Departed

This prayer is offered on Fridays for the souls of the faithful departed.

Saturday Prayer for the Faithful Departed

Catholics pray this prayer on Saturdays for the souls of the faithful departed.

Indulgence for a Visit to a Cemetery

This indulgence for a visit to a cemetery encourages us to spend a moment in prayer for the souls in Purgatory.

Reviewing "There Be Dragons"

          In spite of a busy Saturday last October 1, I had a chance to watch There Be Dragons* on its premier show.     That evening, my friends and I had some time to talk about the movie.  We were delighted to discover its richness and appreciated Roland Joffé.

          The production of There Be Dragons by its director Roland Joffé and key producer Ignacio Gómez-Sancha is one remarkable social enterprise.  To convey aesthetically through film these messages—redemption via the cross, the power of love and forgiveness, the fight to be saints in the middle of the world—are great risks amid current economic, social, political and historical situations.   These men and the whole production team deserve thanks for embarking on a commercial project which is also an education of the heart. 

          There are experiences in life that jolts, disorients, or weakens us.  Many times these are the bitter pill that we have to swallow.  The devastation or the loneliness, the looming fears and insecurities, the guilt that remains after a wrong deed or misgiving, the trauma or the wound after a conflict could deeply and intensely reside in us.  We get angry, we retaliate, or we run away as we refuse to see the reality of our wounds.  We get bitter.   Is there meaning and deliverance from all these?

  
           There Be Dragons brings us in the paradigm of love and forgiveness.  The movie gives you a panoramic view in a moment in history—the Spanish Civil War—when lives of its main characters: Josemaria, Manolo, Ildiko, Oriol and Roberto intertwine.  Each one looks for an ideal, each one looks for love.

          For Josemaria, the Love he found spurred and sustained him in his mission to establish Opus Dei especially in those difficult times of war.   By then, he was fighting hard to drown evil an abundance of good.  Manolo, though seen as Josemaria’s antithesis, looked for God’s redemptive love in the end through Josemaria.  Characters Ildiko and Oriol showed admirably the greatness and frailty of the human condition while Roberto’s saga summarized the conversion of his pain into love which made him free in the end.

          The openness to love and forgiveness, which Joffé rendered through Josemaria and the entire film, enables us to catch the signal of Christ who is in man.  This is the secret that enables to love, to forgive, to have compassion amid structures or dragons that obstruct recognition and acceptance of God.  The movie amplifies one's understanding of others and buoys him to face and slay his dragons.  
 

          In a recent teleconference interview with Roland Joffé at the University of Asia & the Pacific, he said, “We think we look at movies but I think movies look at us: movie stays the same but you hear different comments about it.”  From the screenplay and the actors who did well in putting passion in their roles, I recognized people I know--relatives, friends, people I love, people who make me suffer, etc. I saw myself too.   And in the experience of it, I became, in a way, a stakeholder of the film as I slay my dragons.


          I hope you can watch the movie in the big screen.  In Manila, it will be shown starting November 9 in cinemas: SM Megamall, SM North, SM Southmall, Trinoma, Glorietta 4, and Festival Mall. It is well worth one's money and time!

* “There Be Dragons” tells the story of two childhood friends, Josemaria and Manolo, whose lives take very different paths in the midst of the political and social unrest of the 1930’s in their native country of Spain. The film is inspired by actual events, especially the real life of St. Josemaria Escriva, a priest and founder of Opus Dei (from http://www.stjosemaria.org).

Business Awareness Course @ CADA

Beneficiaries at CADA learn more about the role of Entrepreneurship in society.

 Business Awareness Course* or BAC is a basic business program of study that develops the participants’ awareness and sensitivity towards entrepreneurship or self-employment as a vocation or as an alternate means of livelihood.  At the end of the course, those attending it would have arrived at greater self-knowledge and awareness about business in order to decide properly if entrepreneurship is appropriate for them or not, or perhaps not yet.  Not everyone is cut-out to be an entrepreneur nor is entrepreneurship for everyone.  Yet a good understanding of what it takes to be a successful one is valuable. 

Business Awareness requires being more aware of one's SWOT-strengths, weaknesses, opportunities & threats.

I was back last Febraury 19 at Cavite Dynamic Achievers or CADA after five years, this time giving a Business Awareness Course.  I was also there last 2006 for a Christmas arts and craft workshop with students who at that time attended catechism classes given by CADA’s catechist volunteers. Last February 19, my audience were another batch of  high school students.   Among many things, we discussed the key entrepreneurial traits—good common sense, deep knowledge of the business or expertise, self-confidence, ability to get things done, creativity, leadership and self-reliance—which are also important for any worker or professional. 

Young people see things in life in a uniquely fresh, happy and clear perspective which youth naturally provides.

 Glenda Angeles, Executive Director of El Cielito Foundation, Inc. initiated CADA as the foundation’s first project in 2006. Her concept was to help people develop themselves through education and entrepreneurship starting with the young people from their province in Cavite.  Their approach is to impart a God-centered way of living that would enable the youth to grow in learning so as to develop themselves, come out of poverty, and being capable to lead others to improve their lot as well.

(L-R): CADA Social Worker Christina Llanto, Glenda Angeles-Executive Director of ECF,
Mel E. Maranan, and Rose Naraja-Project Coordinator of ECF

It all started with Glenda’s father Mr. Zosimo Angeles, President of El Cielito  Hotels,  who years ago had been concerned about the education of young people.  “I would often see him read news about educational projects.  And, the religious education of young people is very much in his heart… I would even see him cut out news clippings about catechism  from local newspapers,” disclosed Glenda. 

At present, the El Cielito Foundation, Inc. had built two classrooms and a soap production center in the premises of their ancestral home in Cavite.  These facilities are being used by student beneficiaries of the foundation who currently are the members of CADA. Soaps made from the center are sold and the profit goes to the beneficiaries of CADA. These beneficiaries were selected from public schools and are now given opportunities weekly to receive catechism classes, values education, entrepreneurship skills development training through soap production and other activities like lectures and classes, cultural trips or exposure, and  educational tours.

Student Beneficiaries of CADA pose with ECF Staff and Mr. Zosimo Angeles (2nd row, standing in yellow shirt) at the CADA Project Site in Poblacion, Bacoor, Cavite

To have a CADA project in any community is very possible.  It would foremost require faith,  vision,  and commitment to see it through.  For more information about El Cielito Foundation, Inc. please visit www.elcielitofoundation.com or e-mail ecf_cada@yahoo.com.

*Business Awareness Course was one of the series of modules of the “Entrepreneurship on Migrant Earnings” or the EME project implemented by the Cebu Chamber of Commerce and Industry, Inc. years ago.   It was then funded by the Commission of European Communities through the International Labour Organization in collaboration with the Philippine Overseas Employment Administration.